For Those Recovering From Abuse
Dear precious soul,
First, I want you to know that my heart aches for what you’ve endured. What happened to you was wrong – deeply, unequivocally wrong. You did not deserve any of it, and it was not your fault. Your pain is valid, and your desire to withdraw is a natural response to protect yourself.
Let me share some truth and hope with you, grounded in God’s word and understanding of trauma recovery.
God sees your pain. He weeps with you. In Isaiah 41:10, He promises: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” This divine promise of presence and strength stands firm even in your darkest moments.
Your withdrawal from others is understandable – it’s your mind and body trying to keep you safe. But God designed us for connection, and healing often comes through safe relationships. The key word here is “safe.” You have every right to be selective about who you let into your life.
Let me share some spiritual truths that might help anchor you:
- Your worth is unchangeable. The abuse you suffered doesn’t define you – your identity as God’s beloved child does. Nothing can separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39).
- God is a defender of the abused and oppressed. He delights in rescuing the oppressed, and He sees every tear you’ve shed.
- Your body is still sacred. Despite what others have done, you remain fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). The violations you experienced don’t change your inherent worth and dignity.
Practical steps forward might include:
- Finding a Christian counselor who specializes in trauma. Christian counseling for abuse recovery can help you process your experiences in a faith-centered way while providing professional support.
- Joining a support group. There’s profound healing in knowing you’re not alone. Many churches and Christian counseling centers offer trauma support groups.
- Establishing safe boundaries. It’s okay – and healthy – to say no. It’s okay to distance yourself from people who don’t respect your boundaries.
- Developing a healing relationship with your body through gentle self-care practices. This might include prayer walks, worship through movement, or simply sitting quietly in God’s presence.
Remember that healing isn’t linear. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s okay. Prayer is an integral part of trauma healing, even if sometimes all you can manage is a single word or tear-filled silence. The Holy Spirit intercedes for us when words fail.
While faith is crucial for healing, trauma often requires both spiritual and professional support. A Christian counselor can help you process your experiences while honoring your faith.
You might find comfort in this truth: Yeshua himself was betrayed, and abused. He understands your pain on the deepest level. He doesn’t just sympathize – He knows. And He promises to walk with you through this valley toward healing.
You are not alone. You are not broken beyond repair. You are not what was done to you. You are a beloved child of God, and there is hope and healing available to you.
If you want prayer, reach out. Send me an email: lotsofloveministries@yahoo.com. Click over to the ebooks tab and get my book: I HAVE A PAST TOO! Breaking Free from Shame to Discover Your God-Ordained Destiny and you will see that I understand where you are coming from.
Shalom